Went to the fair in my hometown with some friends. The festival is strawberry themed, so we decided to wear berry/country themed coordinates.
Metamoprhose Gingham Cherry JSK (it has strawberrys on it, I swear.)
Asked by sweetdreamsoflolita
16: Have you ever gotten a dream dress only to be disappointed in it?
Many many times. :c In fact, this week was full of disappointments, actually. I got my Haenuli Fawn JSK which was supposed to max at 110cm in the bust, and in reality it goes up to 130cm, and is just huge on me. I also got Wonder Queen in Green, and it turns out the bodice is navy! And then, worst of all, I did a sale/swap/trade triangle thing for a different version of honey cake, and the one I just picked up in the mail had huge stains all over it. :c I have been very lucky about being able to re-sell everything though, and the girl to whom I was going to sell my clean honey cake agreed to a partial refund and she will be taking the damaged one instead. @_@ but yeah… Many times.
29: Do you own anything from an indie brand?
Considering I work on my own, I would hope so! Of course, I’ve got all of my own prototypes, plus my own hand made stuff, but I also have pieces from various Taobao Shops, Haenuli, Rogue Aerie, and Elegy in my wardrobe. :) I love supporting indie brands, provided they actually fit!
34: How do you cope with negative views about Lolita?
Honestly, when I go out in public I usually ignore everyone except my friends. I’ve been into many other alternative fashions, and that is my primary coping mechanism. If someone (usually a dude, let’s be honest) harrasses me though, I don’t have any issue with shaming him infront of his buddies and telling him to fuck off, though. I know it isn’t polite, but I honestly believe that the way women are socialized to put up with harrassment is very damaging. If men are “so tough” and feel big by insulting women, I don’t have any issue with dishing it back out.
For my birthday I went to Disney World with two of my best friends. I got to wear my new Lucky Pack coat and my Sweet Cream House JSK. The weather outside was absolutely perfect, the park was pretty much empty, and the tea was amazing. Our waiter was so sweet, he gave me an extra strawberry and a rose for my birthday. All of the cast members were awesome as well, they all wished me happy birthday and were fantastic.
OOTD: Sweet Cream House by Angelic Pretty
Something you have to remember is that at whatever size you are and whatever food you eat, you should not let that effect how you feel about yourself. It might be hard, because society basically force feeds everyone into believing that your self worth is defined by your pant size and your diet but in reality it is not.
Confidence is not the easiest thing to muster up and I would be lying if I said I didn’t have days where I wasn’t feeling that great about myself. I was very much like you in high school. I had acne, I was overweight, and I had self confidence issues. It took me graduating and making some friends in college to start to find out who I really was and that and finding tumblr was when I started to realize that I was allowed to be confident. I had never allowed the thought of considering myself attractive or sexy and realizing that I could completely blew my mind. If I could go back in time I would tell my high school self to not stress about it. Acne fades as long as you take the proper steps to help get rid of it. I still have a little bit of scarring and get the occasional break out but it’s not that bad anymore.
Something you should try is to look at yourself every day in the mirror and instead of picking out flaws, find something you really like about yourself. It could be anything, and focus on it. Keep doing that, start finding other parts that you appreciate. Eventually when you run out of things, start from the beginning and keep going. After a few weeks, take one of those days and look at something you don’t like and pretend like you do. Pay yourself a compliment on your worst feature, find something good in what you think isn’t and then keep saying it to yourself. It seems silly but it has helped me a lot. Look for other girls with similar body types to yours and look at them rocking some awesome outfits and if they look awesome, then there is absolutely no reason why you can’t feel the same way about yourself. Looking at pictures of other women who were fat like I am and still were fashion forward and loved makeup really helped me.
Just know that no other person should be the reason why you feel bad about yourself or don’t feel comfortable in your own skin. The most important thing to do is to love yourself. It may take a while and may be hard, but it’s worth it. (If I didn’t answer it good enough for you please send me another ask or come off anon and I can help you more <3)